Your task, which will be quite enjoyable, is simply to get close to your partner. Best way for you to get close to your partner is for you to share with him/her and him/her to share with you.
To quote Daniel Jones article in New York Times,
“In Mandy Len Catron’s Modern Love essay, “To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This,” she refers to a study by the psychologist Arthur Aron (and others) that explores whether intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated by having them ask each other a specific series of personal questions. The 36 questions in the study are broken up into three sets, with each set intended to be more probing than the previous one.
The idea is that mutual vulnerability fosters closeness. To quote the study’s authors, “One key pattern associated with the development of a close relationship among peers is sustained, escalating, reciprocal, personal self-disclosure.” Allowing oneself to be vulnerable with another person can be exceedingly difficult, so this exercise forces the issue.
The final task Ms. Catron and her friend try — staring into each other’s eyes for four minutes — is less well documented, with the suggested duration ranging from two minutes to four. But Ms. Catron was unequivocal in her recommendation. “Two minutes is just enough to be terrified,” she told me. “Four really goes somewhere.””
As you go through, one task at a time, please don’t skip any question — do each in order. Read the question aloud, share your answer with your partner. Then let him/her share his/her answer to the same question with you. Alternate who reads aloud (and thus goes first) with each new question. Take plenty of time with each question, doing what it asks thoroughly and thoughtfully. You can use the same phone and give/take the phone based on who is reading the question aloud.
I. Double Click to start your journey to love Set I of III
Continue to Set II ,,,
II. Double click to continue your journey to love Set II of III
Continue to Set III ,,,
III. Double click to continue your journey to love Set III of III
After a small break, show your soul by looking into each other’s eyes for 4 minutes.
Hope you two find love, joy, companionship, and a family of your own.